Thursday, July 23, 2009


Beth & Tim went to look at the house last night. They say it needs some work, but mostly it's in good shape - good enough to move right in. Oh, and it's not a mobile home, it's a manufactured home and considered a condominium. They have all kinds of amenities, like an exercise room and indoor and outdoor pools there. It's not a very big place, but there are just the two of them and they're not planning on sending out baby announcements (or wedding announcements either) any time soon. So it could serve them for quite a few years.

Today they're going to see if there's any way they can get a loan. There's also the possibility of a rent to own option, though I don't know exactly how that works. Even if this one doesn't work out, it will be good for them to know what their options are. After my last post a couple people mentioned that they would probably need a cosigner on a loan. I guess we'll see. She hasn't really asked - probably because she really wants to do everything by herself.

I'm not really sure how much help we are willing or should be willing to give her, considering she's planning to move in with some guy without marrying him. Yep, she's all grown up and wants to make her own decisions - doesn't mean we have to or should help her do things that aren't necessarily right. I guess we'll have to wait and see what the options are.


  1. Word to the wise. DO NOT co-sign for aynone on any thing. The Bible tells you this. Some one close to me reallly got burned on co-sigh for their son. In debt now for years on end.

  2. I know you would want to help Beth as much as you can, but if you enable her she'll think that moving in with this guy is ok with you. If it were me I would refuse to help unless she gets a place without Tim. I know that sounds mean, but that's how I would do it if I had a child moving in with some guy she's not married to.

  3. Hard isn't it. My youngest son has warned me that he probably will move in with his girlfriend rather than get married. I know some Christians who cut them off at that point hoping they'll change their ways but I can't do that and I am not sure that is right anyway, it just puts up barriers. I want to leave the door open and let them know that I love them despite their choices. As far as co-signing that is a hard one, you want to help but is it right for you and them in the long run, financially that is. I probably would and then worry about it afterwards. If they have got to the point of wanting to move in together then co-signing or not is not going to make any difference as to any other behaviours we might not care for.

  4. hey there I HAVE been popping in and checking but today I come and see this post... from my life,,, I CO-SIGNED for my oldest (one with the baby and babydaddy) to move into a house for rent.... WELL that lasted only 9 months and NOW they are split and he left her with the co-signed house that she can not pay and MY NAME IS ON IT!!!! yep "IT" happens,, DON'T DO IT!!

    good luck on this one and have a great week.


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